Colorado Coach Diary Day 77

The press is on regarding myself deciding on taking another job. My mentors have all stated that many coaching jobs in established programs will always be there. Uprooting after 7 months of Colorado living is unsettling to myself. The programs keep calling and electronically contacting me with the ante rising with each phone call or email. It all appears that winning the Colorado 5A High School Championship is a big deal. Overcoming Denver clubs with established successful legacy programs was impressive. Athletic magazines, social media, and chatter makes it appear I have established a new atomic bomb in American football. The 2 QB pro-set and wishbone attack with 2 qualified QBs in the backfield has caught the sports media buzz. I do not feel there has been anything similar since the Arkansas high school football coach that never punted was the chatter. Since it is QBs, the sports whirring is louder because it is the QB position. Nothing has arisen in QB play since spiking the football by Dan Marino in the 1980s to stop the clock (though technically this is intentional grounding – allowed). The platoon QB, dual threat QB, and certain throws like “back shoulder” have been around for years (Marino also perfected this QB pass). Teams are asking a myriad of questions from QB injury risk to running plays designed for the dual threat QBs. I respond that versatility is what makes an offense dynamic. The “carpet-bombing” attack is designed to confuse defenses and succumb to a simple running play up the gut for 5 yards. Defenses are so worrying about gadget plays that simple plays and blocking schemes become easier. 

Smitty maintains that I need to monetize the 2 QB pro-set. I love the idea of making some extra cash; but feel I would have more stability by not having a podcast, book, or other media remuneration by just simply coaching for what I am worth on the open market. Most probably another coaching job involves a move, new friends for the kids, and leaving behind a romance. My life coach always says go with what feels right and good. There is no hurry with relationships; they just happen. I like that advice. The partner in the relationship may help guide myself on my coaching life’s journey. I like that additionally. I need to prepare for tomorrow’s classes with some of the book reports on famous authors. I cannot dwell on the ultimate coaching opportunity. 

I tucked the kids into Harry Potter series. They loved these books and want more. The stories are tremendous about fantasy and the wizard Harry Potter. Harry Potter is a real hero with my kids due to bravery, loyalty, and compassion. There are endless fun exciting stores. My three boys are asleep before I am done. We are a real family. And despite what has occurred, we are surviving and thriving. I do not envision my three boys ever wandering away from myself or each other. The family attachment is forever tight. I am blessed and fortunate. Good night. 

A student had a seizure in class today and required CPR. Thankfully, I have maintained my Basic Life Support every 2 years training. The cardiopulmonary resuscitation was performed by myself and students with staff assisting from nearby classrooms. It was tenuous regarding a success. My student was a female cheerleader who had worked immensely in our class and wanted to attend Stanford University. She was dazed when we finally lifted her onto the ambulance to transport her to St. Francis InterQuest in Colorado Springs. I was hopeful that there was no permanent damage. She will spend the evening; and hopefully be back in class in a couple days. I visited her at the hospital that evening after basketball practice; and many students and family were present. We discussed everything from learning English in our class to the football team. I spent a few minutes wishing her well; and that she could take her time finishing the week’s projects. Our student had already finished today’s lesson; and was working on tomorrow’s lesson in fundamental English – studying sentence structure. My students and families are excited about our class; and feel this is a jump start for their careers. I walked away down the hospital hallways smiling; not crying because I have accomplished my mission of excellent instruction in English and Literature.

Smitty arrived for some college basketball on television with a couple of beers after the hospital visit. We discussed some rule changes that were needed including: 1) Enlarging the floor with four more feet under the basket and extension laterally to allow some room for 3-pointers, 2) removing the inner circle where contact is awarded to the offense – disallowing defense to be played appropriately, 3) No replays – unable to discern who touched the ball last = a jump ball, 4) 6 fouls per player – so a player does not sit with 2 early fouls, 5) Incidental contact that does not affect the play (pass, dribble, or shooting) be a no-call. Many layups are brush or anticipatory fouls historically called which do not affect the shot. 6) No contesting the referees call in any league – live with the call, 7) 8 seconds to cross the mid-court line in all leagues, 8) one time-out the last minute to finish the game. 

Smitty and I left after a couple beers thinking we could restructure the game of basketball. Generally, the better team wins; and I am quite satisfied with or without our rule changes. The kids keep calling and have not fallen asleep after a big day for the entire family. We are still reading Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s Stone. I love wizardry. 

My arrival is school was met by the superintendent and principal or Colorado Sports Academy High School. The student in the hospital with the seizure has a large malignant brain tumor. I nearly cried discovering how cruel life can become. Our class was subdued today as everyone in the class, cheer squad, and school is crying or downcast. I nearly cried addressing all the students as questions were raised regarding religion, medical diagnosis, and how we can collectively assist our fellow star student and cheerleader. I replied that much of what is discussed is in God’s and the medical community’s hands. We can support her with visits, positives, and make her feel she is not alone in her medical fight against cancer. I mentioned that I had a prior similar bad outcome with my wife, Janae, dying from unexpected breast cancer. My situation and experience were difficult dealing with three young children and their mom advancing to heaven early. I will support her family and our student with anything she needs. This will be our class’s mission – to assist where needed. We planned a Go Fund Me account, daily positive social media narratives (in proper English), and daily visits would be planned within medical constraints. She will undergo surgery, radiation, and chemotherapy over the next 2 months. Prayers daily outside of school will occur. The class was considerably more positive as we discussed the disease and our student. We all want a positive outcome. 

The frosh basketball squad is advancing with our season tethering on late game free throws. I instructed the “Gather” technique to advance our percentage as the best in Colorado High School. We are missing 1-2 free throws per game. Advancements beyond this will include plain fundamentals of rebounding, passing, dribbling, execution of plays, ball screens, and immense full court pressure defense. All frosh are participating on teams, playing indoor and outdoor constant scrimmages, and parents have assisted where needed. The developmental squads are exactly what I wanted; and the school and other schools are attempting to recruit myself. I am still dealing with college and pro NFL positions; but need to decide to stay or grab a lucrative position elsewhere. I am not certain with so much occurring of where to land next year. There are windows of opportunities; and many feel I would be a fool to look the opposite way at many of these opportunities. I stare at my kids as they play with neighbor kids in our backyard and others property. I could not be happier to have them enjoy the play they have experienced. They potentially could obtain that anywhere; but I am living Janae’s dream of a Colorado upbringing for our children. I am fortunate to have options and that my teaching and coaching is proceeding well. Few would not entertain a move that would provide family security forever. The kids arrived back in the house today for some late evening ice cream and Harry Potter bedtime stories. These Harry Potter book series are wonderful for kids. I will sleep tonight. 

A letter arrived on my desk today at home from Alison Maples DO (our former pediatrician). She states Alison is dying from end stage leukemia unresponsive to bone marrow transplants and chemotherapy. The family and Alison have elected hospice care and it is hours to days before Alison is in heaven. Alison’s request included only her immediate family have contact with her. She elected to stay at the Mayo Clinic Hospice because the care was wonderful. I cried and felt how unfortunate life is for many people. Life certainly has its bumps and bruises; and is unpredictable. The entire situation is quite sorrowful regarding Dr. Maples and how she left knowing that there was something seriously wrong with her body and metabolism. I feel she was embarrassed and shocked simultaneously. I could have married this woman because she was a great person and physician. The 3 kids did not bother her; and Alison would have welcomed the kids into her own sphere. Most probably Alison was infertile from her leukemia treatments of radiation, immune, and chemotherapy. She did not mention if she saved eggs before her treatment; but she probably salvaged eggs as most patients do before major surgery or intense medical treatment. Janae and I both saved our DNA. I do not know if Janae’s eggs were fertilized because she died so quickly. It probably does not matter except the Catholic Church wants all these infertility clinics with frozen embryos at early cell division to be adopted. That would be a large stretch for myself; but again, things happen within families. Our kids will undergo genetic testing at The University of Colorado.

The frosh basketball team is nearing playoffs within the city. We have maintained good composure and learned an immense amount of fundamental hoops this year. Many players are playing AAU and Denver Nugget youth ball. Obviously, the parents and players want me to coach. The golf team is also asking that I coach while I muse over a myriad of offers from high school, college, and professional football. Honestly, I am not certain where to go and what to do. My life coach feels I need to go with what feels good and right. I am not certain if leaving in the middle of an undefeated season of football makes sense. Additionally, the Greenfield Village debutante, Mandy, is serious about a partnership. She is overwhelmingly beautiful and nice. The annulment does not bother me because to a football guy, an annulment is like a typical break-up at any age. The annulment is just not recorded as a divorce – like the breakups we have all experienced. I want something good to happen to make me stay in Colorado – as Janae desired. The offers I am receiving would have many coaches stating I need a new brain if I refused any of these great offers. 

The kids are continuing to perform will in school and preschool. I have been able to make all the birthday parties and other social events. They love having dad present. We talk about guy stuff after the birthday parties and ski outings. It is obvious the kids have adapted to Colorado much easier than I have assimilated. My acclimation is slow compared to my kids’ adaptations. Thus, would my kids adapt in a new setting that guaranteed a life-long financial security scheme? Money is not everything; but it is important. I want something to happen that keeps me here. More pay would help additionally. I think about this all through the day when not teaching or coaching. The kids sense that other jobs and a possible move is in the air. I inform them before the Harry Potter read at night that presently we are staying in Colorado. Perhaps I just need to pray more for guidance. 

Mandy called late last night and we talked for 45 minutes. It was delightful; and we are going to a play at the Littleton theater. We are having dinner afterwards at her house (she loves to chef). That really works because it is not far from our Monument, Colorado home (35 minutes). Mandy sounded quite interested and mentioned the Alison Maples situation – it is repeated throughout Colorado social media on many platforms. We discussed that we dated a few times, never were serious, and her health became an issue quickly with recurrence of leukemia. Mandy felt bad for myself; but I mentioned that I am slowly adapting to life’s bumps and bruises. I am moving on with relationships, planning on teaching and coaching next year, and my focus was my three boys. She was quite happy that I had my priorities correct. She discussed her job dealing with the complexities of NFL and some college level teams accounting. The NFL has salary cap issues with constraints and unfairness within the system – players on the same team competing for their share of a large amount of free market money. Players deferring salaries is risky because a league may become bankrupt with little left for players owed millions of dollars. The college system is undergoing massive transformation with a swinging gate of money, players, contacts, and coaches. The student athlete for Division I football and basketball players is highly secondary. 

Most collegiate Division I teams must win to survive. Failure to win breeds impediments to future success. The colleges at the highest level of football are professional football – watered down overall. There are massive amounts of money through media, boosters, and endowments that want to maintain winning programs at any cost. Mandy is withing the sphere of accounting and advising on the limitations of NCAA money allotments and outside appropriations. She feels despite everyone down on portals and NIL (Name/Image/Likeness), there will be widespread growth of college football. The competition is ramped beyond reason; but fans are immersed because football is our sports culture modernly. 

Finally, Mandy discussed the kids and wanted to do some things with our kids. That highlighted me beyond sense because many women though interested in myself would consider the kids as “baggage.” Mandy wanted to know details of my kids’ friends, schools, teachers, and social adaptations to Colorado. I freely discussed their kids wanted a new mom; and probably should not have said that statement. There was quiet on the other end of the phone when I said that statement; but it could not be retracted because it was true. I jumped far too early; and it is so stupid of me. I told Mandy that I said that in jest; but she said that was probably true and kids generally spill their emotions. I am totally ahead of myself and was somewhat embarrassed; but overall, the discussion was a 10. I need to read them Harry Potter – Mandy loved Harry Potter. 

School has been fabulous for our kids Josh and Jake. Jaiden has a couple years before preschool. The nannies are loving our kids; and the neighborhood is a haven for kids playing together of all ages. Our kids fit nicely within the group and have made friends in the surrounding blocks. After homework, the kids play 4-square, the “Keen Game” from Wisconsin – like hide and seek, whiffle ball, capture the flag, soccer, tetherball, sidewalk chalk, and pickle ball on a neighbor’s court. The kids argue, pick sides, perform small trash talk, and promote teamwork. I sit on our back patio and watch the joy my kids expel in good and bad weather. I generally do not bring them in until one of the surrounding moms screams for the third time to come home for supper. A neighbor down the street has an old cowbell that she rings when the evening dinner is ready. I want our kids to obtain as much out of life as we did as kids while growing up in Chicago. Many of the niceties of life are simple – such as the late afternoon early evening playtime, performing well on homework and in school, having a puppy (our Spark), and socializing at birthday and ski parties. Today as we wind down the basketball season, I am mulling over coaching opportunities that are fabulous, repeat upgraded offers (some in the millions), and long-term security for our family. I am torn between my simple happiness and peace coming inside of myself and the issue that I would be a business fool not to tackle one of these high paying college or pro coaching jobs. It would be unusual to vault into the professional ranks; but the offer is on my plate. 

Coaching a SEC school in football is a pinnacle of all coaches; and it is an email starred on my computer. I purposefully have taken my time as directed by my life coach. It is early evening and the Spring snow on our back patio is very light and beautiful. I cover the computer while my kids are 2-doors down screaming for attention and fun. I begin to drift off and in walks Mandy with a glass of Sangria wine. I am shocked because I did not invite nor expect the unexpected visit of a now acclaimed girlfriend. I am sitting on our small patio with a coaching whistle, sweats, Chicago Bulls tee-shirt, and dirty socks. My hair is a mess and I probably smell like old sweat after working with the frosh basketball team – participating in drills (which is what all coaches should do). I embrace Mandy as a welcome and she smiles with her brown hair and eyes. She appears a million dollars and smells wonderful. This is a mismatch. She brought supper for the family and a box of Sangria – pouring herself a glass. I asked where did she discover I liked Sangria? Obviously, she performed a complete background check on myself (all girls do this). Mandy said Janae and I were the talk of Chicago enjoying a glass of Sangria on Michigan Avenue after the Illinois football 5A championship win. The evening will be great! 

Mandy and I had time to talk for an hour as the sun set against the Rockies. The unexpected visit and wine were tremendous and signified seriousness. I liked it. When the kids came home; Jake mentioned and asked if this was finally the new mom? I said we are working on that; and he said Dad, I need a yes or no. Mandy and I smiled and packed this into our back pocket for later discussion. After I opposed Janae’s parents Sunday afternoon debutante coming out parties for weeks, I realized they may have been correct. Mandy helped with the dishes, hugged the kids, and read a story from Harry Potter’s wizardry book. This is better than a football win. 

The days keep slowly lengthening as the kids played outside. We have completed a couple spring ski trips to Winter Park and Ski Granby. I now understand Janae’s missing Colorado- because there is nothing close to the activities, mountain weather, and grandeur of Colorado Springs. Mandy and I had a date in a couple days after the nanny agreed to spend some extra time at our house with college homework. I probably need to have her move-in and occupy a bedroom. The kids love the nanny and backup nanny. The date with Mandy was ecstatic. We visited the Will Rogers Shrine (wonderful) and then had supper at the upper Broadmoor 1858 restaurant at the base of Seven Falls. The food was exquisite; and I mentioned it was as delightful as downtown Chicago food (some of the world’s best restaurants). Mandy had never been to Seven Falls; but as a spoiled Denverite, it was taboo to travel south to Colorado Springs. Nothing in Colorado Springs could be as nice as Denver. We laughed about such matters; and I had mentioned that when we initially moved to the front range of Colorado, the traffic was unsettling. The Larkspur Renaissance Festival was ongoing for 2 weeks; and traveling to Denver was impossible. Mandy mentioned that Larkspur was the furthest south any Denver resident would ever travel. Colorado Springs is not considered part of the discussion along the front range. The Springs is in second place. 

Mandy opened about her dreams and wanting to have more children as a gulped more Sangria wine. I can have more children; and my three boys would probably love more offspring in the family. That is a monster commitment from a guy who is on overload already. It is obvious that Mandy respected Janae; and felt Janae knew how to pick husbands. Why me? Mandy stated I was a 10 in looks, alpha guy, loved sports, and had respect with my religion and teaching background. I knew she was scouring the social media platforms. I have not and will not do that with Mandy. I will take her at face value. I do not need internet support for decisions. I am thinking of my life coach Sandy stating go with what feels good. Am I falling in love? 

As the sun set and the night was a touch chilly, a couple interrupted us and asked that I sign their menu for an autograph. It was obvious they were a football couple. After some small talk and some discussion about the 2 QB set, I opened my iPhone and revealed some 2 quarterback plays I have used. I informed him that variations were smothered on the internet. The couple was extremely cordial; and I would enjoy being their friends. Mandy had a nice talk with his wife. The couple then asked if we were married or getting married; and Mandy and myself stared at each other. I did not know what to say; but felt the easy answer was: “working on the relationship.” They smiled and drifted away as Mandy and I smooched. We arrived home to sleepy kids who fell asleep on the couch. We placed them into beds and Mandy parted with a smile. Mandy is helping me out of my funk with resisting relationships and partnerships. It was a good night. I will not sleep; but that is fine. I could be falling in love!

Smitty came over for some football watching and gave me a mouthful of social media about myself and Mandy. We had some discussions about relationships as his employee on and off fling is now over. The issue is that he is her superior – never a good situation. Office romances are tough – but I get how people meet. We are all capable of marrying many people. The alignment of the stars, hormone levels, compatibility, family, money, future, and entering a monogamous relationship for life matter to a high level. There are barriers in every relationship. Smitty asked how Mandy enjoyed and dealt with the kids. I replied it could not have been better; as Mandy read them to sleep, fed them, changed Jaiden’s diapers, and the kids loved her immensely. Smitty felt that was a positive sign. I have a ton on my plate with semester exams, evaluating students’ prose writings, and parent-teacher conferences (which I enjoy). I invite students to attend with their parents so we are all on the same wavelength structurally regarding improvements academically. Few teachers employ this technique; but I find it helpful since one message is sent to the family. The parent – teacher conferences require preparation and time. Obviously Smitty pried into my job offers; and I had not seriously given much thought. I wanted to wait until the school year ended before tackling that proposal – realizing that many would be relinquished. . Smitty and I discussed the issue of a partnership with Mandy and then departing for some remote job (like Baltimore) as an offensive coordinator or QB coach. I said we would cross that bridge if the relationship became more serious. We are just beginning to know one another. This will take time; but it is strongly apparent Mandy is interested in myself as a life-long partner potentially. We have a date this upcoming weekend – meeting between us in Castle Rock. 

The beer and football were great. I love watching football with another footballer. We argue calls, plays, and strategy continuously. I generally think I win; as does my opponent (Smitty). Smitty feels I could outcoach most coaches presently in college and the professional ranks. I replied that was conjecture; and players, money, contracts, injuries, fans, owners, and the overall program legacy had considerable effects on the success of the program. Coaching was a part of football success; but not the entire package. Great coaching is on every winning program. Great coaches can be on lesser programs if not supported by players, management, assistant coaches, trainers, fans, and media. Alignment of many positives must occur for a winning season. I do feel I could coach college or professional football – given the opportunity. I am not certain if I should jump ship. There is a ton on my plate; and I need to finish the school year. 

The phone rings and Dr. Alison Maples sister is on the phone from the Mayo Clinic Hospice. Alison has died; and she will have her body donated to the local medical school anatomy class. I was subdued, cried, and asked if there was anything I could do to help. Her sister remarked that Alison loved me, asked for your prayers, and died peacefully without pain. Her family was present; and a mini celebration of life was held at the bedside as Alison desired. Her ashes went to her sister. I said we would stay in contact because she was so nice and sincere. God Bless Alison Maples DO. 

Our family spent Sunday at the Wolf Lodge in northern Colorado Springs. We enjoyed every water ride and the lazy river. Mandy joined us as we seemed like a real family. The kids automatically feel she is the new mom. We will determine this in time. I have enjoyed Mandy’s companionship. Everyone in our family loves her – as well as Janae’s parents (Herb and Sherry Tompkins). Next week we are invited to a Saturday evening social at the Tompkins in Greenwood Village. The kids are also invited as neighbor kids will be attending. Mandy is highly anticipating the social since she now has an automatic date. I was wrong about the Tompkins and dissuaded myself about their Sunday afternoon socials of meeting neighbors and debutantes. I was blindly hit by an amazing woman (Mandy). I am certain many friends and family in our sphere are anticipating a proposal. I will take my life coach’s advice – if it feels good, then go with it regarding relationships. I will always have grief over Janae. These are her kids. Sad, she cannot enjoy them; but we do not understand many aspects of our earthly existence. God’s plan is not of our making. Life is unpredictable; and I am not surprised when jobs, relationships, or lives falter or rise. I feel that I am becoming happy again. Realistically, I need a mom for these kids; but having another 3-on-3 basketball team is somewhat overwhelming. The give and take of a relationship equate that if I marry Mandy, I must respect her wishes to have a large family along with my kids (blended). I can deal with all this having a strong partner. 

The youth who had the drug issue turned his life around by attending rehabilitation, working to obtain As and Bs in his classes, and progressed in frosh basketball. I discussed the situation with his parents and they were relieved he was able to stay on the hoop team. Few people knew of his drug issue; and since this is a medical issue; federal privacy applies. I cannot discuss his situation medically with anyone excepting his family and the student. Colorado Sports Academy High School performed well because this easily could have been a suicide. I strongly wanted to avoid this by not dismissing him from his peers through sports and socialization. This could be a small bump in a future strong life because our school academically and through sports supported his academic and emotional needs. 

The kids are winding up the ski season. The original ski group with Dr. Maples invited our family to an Arapahoe Basin final ski party. We have an early start, nannies and games for kids not skiing (Jake and Jaiden), and we end skiing at 2 PM with a tailgate in the parking lot. This will be ultimate Colorado; and great socialization for our kids because other young families will be present. Few places on earth have such immaculate ski resorts. Mandy is also skiing; so, we will all have a year-end ski retreat. The snow is great; and more is coming. I applied a hook with the kids – meaning we are skiing if the grades are good (not kind of). The got the message firmly. Colorado is a great place for families. I do love it here. I get what Janae meant about raising kids in Colorado. Good night!

The ski party was great according to my students who watched some of the internet videos from the kids’ ski party. One of the gals asked if I was getting married to Mandy. I smiled and said we were dating. The students who revealed this to me before class instructed me that marriage would be good for me. I responded that marriage was great if it was the correct choice. An ensuing discussion began which amplified the discussion of “living together” v a celebratory marriage. Most of the gals present wanted a permanent commitment; while some of the guys wanted to test the waters with a living in situation. Historically, in the American culture, living together or cohabitation began in the 1960s with the sexual revolution, premarital sex, birth control pills, mini-skirts, and legal abortion as a form of birth control. Some studies relate with women first marrying under the age of 36, a 70% preemptive cohabitation prior to marriage that could last years. We then discussed the issues of bank accounts, kids’ names, family and parental pressure to tie the knot, and the ability to easily leave a relationship without recourse. Students were involved in the discussion as I mentioned that any relationship involves commensurate reciprocal give and take. Every couple and situation are different. Generally, if only one partner wants a formal commitment and marriage, then the relationship does not continue. Ultimately, I relayed to the small group of students the importance of adult responsibility in your work, religion, jobs, relationships, and family. 

As the rest of the class entered and sat, the discussion amongst my initial student group that began with an internet video of the ski party, grew to involve everyone. As a private school (Colorado Sports Academy High School), we are to a degree not limited in discussing religious related aspects. The tangential nexus if our school receiving state funding, however, has placed a vice on the school through myself or any teacher promoting or defeating any religion (widely applied). The Free Exercise Clause allows an individual to practice any religion they choose without discrimination; while the Establishment Clause disallows the government from establishing a religion – added to the Bill of Rights in 1791. Our school through receiving state funds is limited by not being able to establish a religion or promoting (establishing) the ways of religion surrounding these beliefs. This is separation of church and state; and as teachers we cannot ascribe to a certain way of life that reflects a religious belief. Students are vulnerable at young ages; and religion is firmly left to families at home and non-school practices.

A student then asked regarding my prayers after football games. This was an issue under Kennedy v Bremerton School District in the Supreme Court. Prayers after school are private; though on school grounds if students are not coerced into prayer or the school promoting prayer. The right for private prayer after school sports games is supported by the Free Exercise Clause and First Amendment (Free Speech). I mentioned that religion will never be part of any school receiving state funding beyond basic needs such as textbooks. Schools receiving building funds or ancillary program funding of any kind are considered public for refraining from religion adaptation within the school boundaries or school promoted events off site. I smiled as the class seemed keenly interested when I said this began with myself on a social media platform which evolved into the practice of living together (cohabitation). The discussion carried into the historical context of cohabitation after the 1960s cultural revolution of music. dress, arts, and values. Religions fostering marriage preceding cohabitation I cannot advocate or suppress because of the Establishment Clause as applied to our school. The couples, family, and religious preferences are deciding factors. 

The class gained some traction on myself as having a life outside of football (girlfriend and ski party). I left with them having an electronic assignment due in a week to apply 3 synonyms and 3 antonyms to my top 100 words. There will be a written test; and a formal in class group competition – dividing the class in half – next week. The class left excited and competitive. I am hopefully being a great teacher and respected adult for my young students. 

Fearing remorse from administration, I received none after my last class discussing The Free Exercise and Establishment Clause. A couple student athletes wanted to pray after sports contests; and I said they could join without participating in the athletic contest. Word leaked within a couple days to another social media platform with the front range of Colorado and the globe focusing on our large prayer gatherings of both teams after football or basketball. The pictures and comments covered the map of opinions; but generally, were positive. Many coaches and teams that want me to coach at their programs next year applauded the move. I replied via a simple thanks. Many kids have no recourse when their parents are non-religious (agnostics) or atheists. I feel sorry for these kids and families; but everyone in life deals with uphill struggles and impediments. It seems I am a celebrity without wanting to be a celebrity. People that want the celebrity statues are welcome to my privacy invasion. I cannot go to church or walk off a sports field without some social media magnification or recourse beyond my control. Perhaps in time (when and if we lose), the magic and excitement regarding myself and the football program will evade social media popularity.

Smitty arrived over for some Thursday Night Football after the kids were down. We discussed the offense with an Xs and Os clipboard. Smitty wanted to add a couple wrinkles to the 2 QB offense with a double bootleg RPO (run – pass option). This was interesting; but was timing and blocking dependent. One QB received a snap at center, faked a power run, and then bootlegged to the strong side. If there was a pass, run crease, or offensive advantage, the QB ran or passed. If the play was stuffed, a reverse handoff occurred to the flanker (our 2nd QB). The 2nd QB had the same options as the QB #1 headed up field on a post pattern. The fake handoff, bootleg, and handoff must be practiced consistently daily to perfect the sequence. This differed from a jet sweep because of the fake power run initially, the bootleg, and the 2nd back (our 2nd QB) having a RPO with the designated receiver QB #1. All other skill players (tight end, receivers, and running back) will block. The power runner receiving the fake handoff aims for the middle linebacker. The lone receiver is QB #1 because the play is designed to massively confuse the defense. I mentioned that the play required great blocking and timing. The ball is thrown away by QB #2 if there is no open receiver (QB #1). I told Smitty we would discuss it with the assistant coaches. The beer tasted great after a long day. 

Mandy called and wanted to know what was happening in Colorado Springs with the notoriety about us as a couple, prayers after football games, and parents all over the state wanting into my English, Literature, and Composition Class. She mentioned that I taught cursive writing, fundamental English, and studied the great writers globally. Mandy wanted to attend the class. I humored her by stating there was a waiting list; and I would give her my last assignment of 100 words needing synonyms and antonyms. She mentioned that she was discovering good things about me daily. Mandy loved it because she received some positive calls and emails from many of her friends. Many told her to not let this guy go. I laughed as we planned tomorrow night on our back patio watching the kids play in the back neighborhoods, the hide and go seek “Keen” game from Wisconsin. 

The athletic director called about assistant coaching the men’s golf team for the rest of the year. A coach left over a contractual issue; and the team needs assistance. I mentioned that my handicap was 3; and the AD was ecstatic. I have coached golf prior; and love the game. I said I would help as a consultant and could not be there nightly. We are finishing our frosh basketball tourneys – which has required a ton of time. I discussed some innovative ways to manage sports which drew a sigh from the AD. Beginning at 0600, teams could practice at various times during the day by extending the school day. The extra time would include intramurals, extracurricular activities such as speech and debate, and clubs. Students would become adjusted to a college schedule. We already have late buses; so that issue would be solved. A student’s academics schedule could rotate around his gym and extracurricular activities. A student could have an 0700 academic start, basketball at 1100 hours, and perhaps musical practice at 1500 hours. The gyms and practice fields would be used constantly. Personally, I would not mind having a 0630-football practice and be done at 0800 hours. Students and faculty could choose their optional classes surrounding the schedule. A specific history class may be elected as a junior instead of sophomore year. I also mentioned that year-round school with a month off in the summer would be advantageous for many students. Fulfilling college requirements in 3 years to move on makes more sense than a scattered summer. School and fall sports practice begin early and are year-round with 7x7 football all summer. Most of our students will advance onto college and graduate school – this would cut the years down. The AD was intrigued. 

Josh has another birthday party near Castle Rock this weekend. It was too late to order from Amazon; so, I visited a nearby Walmart in Castle Rock – a few miles north off I-25. While browsing and choosing some Harry Potter books, a Denver coach fist-pumped me. We talked football for nearly 45 minutes while my kids ran the isles and played. His older daughters were whining until they got on their Iphones and social media platforms. We discussed some plays, recruiting, and next year’s schedule. He mentioned his team was probably adopting the 2 QB backfield set. He applauded myself for changing football for the better with more offensive innovation. I thanked him; and we elected to perhaps socialize at the upcoming summer Colorado Coach’s Conference. He mentioned to me that I was undoubtedly receiving Colorado High School Coach of the Year. I was humbled; and did not realize such an honor existed. We then delved into the college and professional offers. His experience was similar – finishing runner-up 3 years prior and being offered many upgraded jobs with small kids. His family came first; and he loved where he was residing in Denver. That was a good decision for him; but not everybody. His wife was involved in the church and had many great friends. He could not at that time just move to Florida or Arizona. We parted with contact information exchange. 

I purchased a couple more Harry Potter books for our kids (Chamber of Secrets and Prisoner of Azkaban). The kids want to go to bed early so we can read as much as possible. I mentioned it was a deal. They were quite happy; and I realized all kids need is parental love for success. Everyone deserves this in life; though many do not receive love. We drove into our driveway and the kids asked if Mandy could read the books tonight. They also remarked that Mandy was probably our new mom? Kids reflect life!

The day crept on myself until I realized I was needing to get to this birthday party near Castle Rock. I wrapped the Harry Potter books and wrote a card from Josh – not bad for a guy coach. We all jumped into our SUV and there was a road block on I25 immediately. The police were rerouting traffic to a county road. Now, I am considerably late. My son Josh was not happy – thinking the party would be over and the birthday song sung by our arrival. We did arrive an hour late while just beginning the birthday song. We joined in as Josh stared at myself. I will never forget that stare; nor will I ever be late again for a birthday party. Josh joined in with the presentation of the first gift which the birthday girl and family loved (Harry Potter books). Thus, I gained a few points from the birthday crowd and my son. The games began after the cake and ice cream and birthday gifts were opened. It was a fun occasion for the kids. I apologized to the mom of the girl and noticed that she was single. I also noticed that she was excessively smiling and asking a ton of questions about football and my career. The other parents were moms. I was embarrassed at being hustled again. I tried to be nice and always told myself (like my QBs) to underreact to a bad call. This is a mere bad call – I think.  

The mom was gorgeous, single, and the dad was a physician who I know now married the office nurse after she was dumped. This is apparently a common scenario – since the doc spends more time with his RN than his family. Obviously, the birthday gal’s mom is receiving the Colorado 10-year 50% alimony barring remarrying. The new alimony recipient generally lives with the new partner the full 10 years because Colorado law requires a ceremonial marriage for the alimony to end (I have been told all these facts and it has been court tested). The birthday girl’s mom would not let go of myself. I understand with kids she is on limited time to date. I am within her wheelhouse and prey. There must be many forlorn single gals in Colorado – because I have met most of them in a short period of time. Though this would be a big blend, I feel sorry for the birthday mom. My relationship with Janae had none of these decrepit elements of non-love. 

The birthday party ended with the birthday mom giving me a big squeeze on the arm while parting. The kids came home and played in the neighborhood after one hour of homework and reading were accomplished. Smitty came over for some early night football and we talked the birthday situation. Smitty felt I was a hot commodity on the market – good looking (how can a guy discern looks?), great coach, nice kids, and good job. This is what young adult women want – they are not looking for transient rock stars, business money gobblers, struggling mental health males, or men with fantasies never going anywhere. Young adult women will accept some baggage except the guy himself cannot be a failure to thrive. The phone rings amidst this conversation and a great football game. It is the birthday gal’s mom inviting me to a social party next week down the block – a block party. I declined because (though she was gorgeous and needy), I have enough on my plate. I did not want to screw up matters with Mandy. Smitty laughed and said he could only find a miserable office romance not going anywhere but south. I mentioned that we both could use wives; but if life demanded we assume both parental roles forever (as now), then that is our fate. 

The kids came in for supper and we began reading Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets. They could not obtain enough interest. All three loved the book – though Jaiden could hardly understand. The pictures were great and the late birthday party arrival was now forgotten. I did well as a widower picking a girl’s birthday present. I am moving on. 

I am concerned that all this social media chatter (which I cannot maintain interest) is upon myself. I can handle the non-personal stuff – giving credit to my assistant coaches and players who practiced my 2 QB schemes – which won a Colorado 5A Football Championship my first year. Welford Tremby’s Carpet Bombing Offense is now being termed the Rocky Mountain Arsenal with not one, but 2 dual threat QBs in the backfield. This is altering life in the United States because football is enmeshed into our culture. I have designed plays that would confuse God according to the sports media. It has become the number one sports topic on the internet. I am deluged with mail, email, texts, and offers to coach from Pop Warner to the professional ranks. The defensive genius sports reporters on all the major sports networks are befuddled by the trickery, boot legs, RPO (run-pass options), and mass confusion amongst the primary, secondary, and third level of defense (corners and safeties). 

The high school students come to class showing me upon entering the English, Literature, and Composition Classroom with more stuff discussing the Xs and Os of our offense. The championship game dual QB option that resulted in a 45-yard gain to the house was in a myriad of platforms. I enjoyed watching the play develop more than the QB trickery. The blocking schemes with the tight end and wideout destroying the outside linebacker and defensive end when it appeared the run was in the opposite direction (misdirect) was intriguing. The world can show that clip a thousand times. I am wanted on the sports media platforms live or on Google, Facebook, Instagram, You-Tube, and Twitch. I am being offered substantial amounts of cash to explain my football offense. Many teams are adopting variations of the offense. I humbly have been called Bill Walsh II. The offense is beyond the spread, power spread, air raid, or high-speed attack offenses. The Rocky Mountain Arsenal or Tremby Carpet-Bombing Attack can also perform power running. The mass confusion on defense with 2 QB options is the ultimate danger to the opposition. 

Limited comments from myself to Missy Bradford from the Denver newspapers have highlighted my feelings about great athletic/Hall of Fame caliber QBs sitting on the bench or sending in complex or fake signals. These great QB running back athletes can sit for years with a clipboard and develop body and mind atrophy. I would rather these athletes play flag in the parking lot while the game is ongoing. Subbing QBs (the old way) after a blowout is not my idea of best use of athletes. I answer questions about injuries; and possibly one or both QBs going down. I reply that a virus, sprain, head injury, or fracture can happen at home or on the field – life has risks. My teams have 5 players that can play QB; and all practice the 2 QB backfield schemes. Some of these great athletes are also wideouts, corners, and punt returners. Good athletes have been throwing footballs for years; and I cringe when Sunday afternoon announcers direct intelligent football offenses to a chalkboard QB sitting awaiting his time (really?). Who started this 2nd string QB chalkboard sideline stuff? I can understand waiting your turn as an astronaut for the Space Shuttle (only a couple spots). There are gobs of high school, college (many divisions – D1, D2, D3, NAIA, Ca college leagues, club sports), and professional teams (32). All of them have backfield thoroughbreds with sideline chalkboards, cameras upon them, and thinking of U-Haul trailer hitches after the season. 

Finally, I read that QB stats from The Rocky Mountain Arsenal because of 2 or more backfield QBs would not engender college scholarships, All-American, or Pro Bowl awards. I say phooey! Winning is the ultimate goal; and if I cannot win with lesser athletes, then I am not a good coach. It is like a coach playing chess without your Queen. The coach deals with the no Queen on the board; and still wins. It was quite a day – 

Mandy calls the next day while I am giving the nanny instruction for Jaiden’s day. Josh goes to school by walking a couple blocks with me; while Jake heads to day-care with me a half-mile away. Mandy and her family have been reading all this social media content. She asks when will I decide about next year. I mention that my contract is up this summer for Colorado Sports Academy High School. I have not committed many crimes so I will probably be renewed. Mandy mentioned this media attention was beyond the Nuggets, Broncos, Rockies, and CU teams. Your little high school team has garnered the interest of the globe. Non-football fans are now becoming fans – wanting to see this 2 QB backfield set. Your football genius is akin to winning the lottery. And it is not going away – like politics. The football chatter is fun, entertaining, and is our culture. When I consult for college and pro sports teams accounting, there is background talk of Tremby’s Carpet-Bombing Attack. Since I am in Colorado, they ask me if I know this football coach. I generally hesitate and say I have met him. If I say we are dating; then the world IT chatter will engulf me – perhaps more than you. I have jobs to finish with changing sports platforms such as portals, NIL deals, college money from media (billions), and NFL salary caps. I am deluged with NFL requests for calculating deferred contract costs with depreciation, annuities, and inflation. I need to keep my mind on my job until I receive a bevy of phone calls from friends and families who say: “Did you see this social media chatter?” 

Mandy says I am now a verified “Rock Star.” I laugh and she asks where do we go from here? Mandy has concerns that the divorced gal in Castle Rock at the site of Josh’s birthday party is an issue. The IT chatter says we were now a “thing.” I explained what happened (nothing). I mentioned I have confronted every forlorn single gal in Colorado hunting for a mate. I mentioned with teaching, now a golf assistant coach, and English/Literature/Composition High School Instructor, I am overburdened with 3 boys. I am the mom and dad. Mandy mentions that I probably can travel nowhere and not be unnoticed. I said that will fade with time. I am overwhelmingly more concerned with my family than anything else in life. I am following Janae’s directives to raise the kids in Colorado, find a mom, and live your life (which was stolen from her).

Mandy begins to cry and remembers how good Janae was as a friend living down the street. I mentioned that I fought myself over attending the Tompkins Sunday afternoon socials in Greenfield Village. I am now happy that I overcame my reservations and listened to Herb and Sherry Tompkins. I think they “get’ my situation as much as myself. I could have stayed in Chicago, kept winning with my inner-city football team, and never have seen yourself or the Rocky Mountains. What a loss! I am fortunate that our family is finding our way. I am not wealthy financially; but am super wealthy from a family perspective. I will see you tomorrow night on our back patio if it does not rain – watching the kids play. I will make supper; and have a bottle 

I had a wonderful evening with Mandy. We both laughed because a previous divorced Mandy at a birthday party for Josh attempted to get cozy with myself. I mentioned that Colorado has run out of guys; and Mandy stated “real guys.” I find that hard to believe with rodeo, fly-fishing, football, Olympic Training Center in Colorado Springs, and skiers everywhere. Mandy states these real guys are swooped quickly. Mandy admitted she is quite picky with dates and relationships. Her first entrance into permanency failed with an annulment ending. That was difficult; but necessary. She has reclaimed her sanity, goals, and moved out of a short clinical depression after the breakup. Mandy felt like a failure; and her family doctor recommended Saffron. The Saffron helped immensely with sleep, mood, and all bodily functions. She still uses it in lesser amounts off Amazon. I am impressed that Mandy was so honest with myself. Initially, all the social media hype about my football coaching was intimidating. She informed her family and friends that at heart I am a high school teacher of English, Literature, and Composition. She informed her friends that I am overcoming a ton by losing Janae (whom she knew and respected). We met by chance at the Tompkins house; and the rest is history. I have not and will not perform social media research on her; because I like Mandy at face value. If she robbed 50 banks; it would not affect myself because she has been wonderful to myself and family. Mandy and I parted the evening with love and smiles. Things are good between us. 

The kids enjoyed Mandy reading them to sleep with Harry Potter. Jaiden understood a small amount; but loved the pictures. The kids want her as their mom; and I said we are working on that aspect. Josh asked why I am waiting. I informed him that courtship requires some time; and I want it to be perfect if she does come into our family. We also discussed that more brothers and possibly sisters would come into our family. Josh was quite in agreement that having more kids in the family was a blessing. He loves his brothers (Jake and Jaiden). We are entering a new phase of life for our family; and we all want to do it right. 

The discussion with Josh at bedtime turned into his fright over possibly moving again. He knows I am a good coach with many great offers; but he loves being near his grandparents. He has a plethora of friends at school and within the neighborhood. The discussion was moving and very informative for myself. It would be difficult to move away and abandon our great situation we have found in North Colorado Springs. I left the bedroom nearly crying. I have it good here; and moving away for more money and coaching prestige is risking a worse situation for my kids. I also must balance my happiness here with financial security that lofty coaching jobs would bring to our family. At present on balance, I am not leaving Colorado Sports Academy High School. I must do the dishes before my bedtime. 

Smitty came over the next night for some football after the kids were tucked in. His kids have a buzzer wherever they are to alert Smitty if he is needed. The buzzer is in their pockets; and it has never sounded. His kids are older than mine; and I cannot leave them at this young age. We discussed his girlfriend situation with an employee. Smitty is the superior; and it becomes dicey with employment evaluations, expectations, following orders, and job performance. A lover generally gets a pass until the rest of the employees complain. Smitty realizes it is not the best situation; but it is working. He does not feel it will result in a permanent relationship; but things may grow and prosper. Smitty feels I am fortunate to have met some nice girls who are looking for a gem of a guy. Smitty admits the social media chatter is overwhelming – because it is beyond all the Denver sports teams, Olympics in The Springs, and the usual Colorado stuff about skiing, mountains, and bicycling trails. Colorado is just different with some intriguing sports. Smitty rides the Sante Fe Trail weekly; and travels to Cheyenne Canyon for some skilled mountain bike trail riding. I may join him in the off-season.

I arrive in class the following day and I am met by a family with a student struggling in my class. We discussed the intensity and breadth of English, Literature, and Composition. The girl was crying and did not feel she could finish the semester. She has been ill with nausea and vomiting; and has had to leave class frequently. The leaving is somewhat disruptive; but tolerable. I know she can perform the work; and I offered her to complete the course in the summer. She had finished much of the classwork until the past couple weeks. The gal was a junior and wanted to attend teachers’ college. While we were discussing options, the mom quietly asked when her last menses occurred. She sobbingly stated she missed her last period. The stare from her parents arrived within 5 milliseconds. I stated that I would work with her if she was pregnant. The situation was overwhelming; and I felt quite sorry. Hopefully our student and family will be able to find peace. The home situation may be difficult. Keeping the baby is not my responsibility regarding counseling; and professional help is present. I have my own religious convictions; but I cannot transpose my feelings onto another who is probably in a precarious position. Years ago, pregnant high school women left the state and were boarded at far away homes for pregnant girls, foster homes, and antenatal units. That practice has thankfully ended. I also envision her life at home with these parents as uphill. I will pray for this pregnant girl student and family. 

Yesterday was a wonderful day. The pressure continues to mount for myself regarding replying to many football coaching offers. I am in a quandary regarding many of these fabulous jobs. I want to secure my family financially; yet the opportunity at present is not in Colorado. A move is highly doable, but not easy. Our kids would not be happy for a period – especially Josh. I was raised in inner city Chicago and never left. It was my world. I realize the world has changed by more mobility. I have job offers in the Chicago area and in almost every state. The money for many of the coaching gigs is guaranteed. Football is supreme; and a way of winning with a de novo coach, player, offensive or defensive scheme would appear better in a football program’s resume. One extra win in an SEC school would maintain the entire athletic department’s numerous jobs. There is no end with American football – as it continues to escalate in popularity yearly. Improved training, techniques, players, coaches, knowledgeable fans, dream stadiums and practice facilities, media coverage 24/7, and money from all sources have made our gladiator game supreme. Years ago, American Football overtook baseball as the national pastime. I am the benefactor of such excitement and fanaticism. Then again, I have a family, solid girlfriend, stability, Colorado (Janae’s wish), nearby grandparents, and skiing (which I am beginning to enjoy). Life here in North Colorado Springs is wholesome. 

The English, Literature, and Composition Class has circled around to American authors and their writings. Politically a school, student, administrator, or parent could find a squabble with any writer – be it political philosophy, sexual innuendoes, 4 – letter wordings, non-discussed topics at the dinner table, and anything non-Disney or flowery. Thus, boldly I stated we will study Phillip Roth, the prolific American writer who has published 30 novels – eight have become movies. I gave the class a week to order and read “Goodbye-Columbus.” Contained within the book report are the book’s title and author, plot summary, character summarizations, themes, writing style, and personal reaction to the book. Roth as an atheist contradicted the strict middle class Jewish upbringing; and questioned many facets of American life and relationships. Roth’s writing awards are immense – including the National Humanities Medal granted by Barrack Obama in 2011. A street in his hometown, Newark, New Jersey, is named in his honor. My students’ eyes and brains will be opened by Roth’s fiction and semi-autobiographical writing nature – always reviewing the past’s customs and history. Roth was a brilliant complicated author who stretched the literature world with works such as “Indignation.” I could become a hero high school instructor; or become a battered washed-up teacher by bringing Roth into our class. We need to get away from Shakespeare for some time. 

Mandy called and wanted to talk about her troubles with the massive accounting expenditures of Ticketmaster, club seats, stadium retention or PSL (Personal Seat License), parking, food, rental space surrounding stadiums, and streaming costs. The massive expense of college and professional sports has boomeranged back to professional owners and colleges expecting a return on their investments. The athletic expenses have paralleled the revenue stream – including massive player and coach salaries, medical teams, stadium rentals, security, food outsourcing, equipment, locker rooms, training facilities, travel, insurance, and injury costs. The balance of the expenses requires her accounting to provide a framework for advertising and media costs (paying for most capitalistic United States sports teams). I listen and then say, why cannot we continue the discussion tomorrow night on our back patio with a barbecue. She agrees! 

Smitty came over the next night for some football after the kids were tucked in. His kids have a buzzer wherever they are to alert Smitty if he is needed. The buzzer is in their pockets; and it has never sounded. His kids are older than mine; and I cannot leave them at this young age. We discussed his girlfriend situation with an employee. Smitty is the superior; and it becomes dicey with employment evaluations, expectations, following orders, and job performance. A lover generally gets a pass until the rest of the employees complain. Smitty realizes it is not the best situation; but it is working. He does not feel it will result in a permanent relationship; but things may grow and prosper. Smitty feels I am fortunate to have met some nice girls who are looking for a gem of a guy. Smitty admits the social media chatter is overwhelming – because it is beyond all the Denver sports teams, Olympics in The Springs, and the usual Colorado stuff about skiing, mountains, and bicycling trails. Colorado is just different with some intriguing sports. Smitty rides the Sante Fe Trail weekly; and travels to Cheyenne Canyon for some skilled mountain bike trail riding. I may join him in the off-season.

I arrive in class the following day and I am met by a family with a student struggling in my class. We discussed the intensity and breadth of English, Literature, and Composition. The girl was crying and did not feel she could finish the semester. She has been ill with nausea and vomiting; and has had to leave class frequently. The leaving is somewhat disruptive; but tolerable. I know she can perform the work; and I offered her to complete the course in the summer. She had finished much of the classwork until the past couple weeks. The gal was a junior and wanted to attend teachers’ college. While we were discussing options, the mom quietly asked when her last menses occurred. She sobbingly stated she missed her last period. The stare from her parents arrived within 5 milliseconds. I stated that I would work with her if she was pregnant. The situation was overwhelming; and I felt quite sorry. Hopefully our student and family will be able to find peace. The home situation may be difficult. Keeping the baby is not my responsibility regarding counseling; and professional help is present. I have my own religious convictions; but I cannot transpose my feelings onto another who is probably in a precarious position. Years ago, pregnant high school women left the state and were boarded at far away homes for pregnant girls, foster homes, and antenatal units. That practice has thankfully ended. I also envision her life at home with these parents as uphill. I will pray for this pregnant girl student and family.